Depression – Daily Health Info
Depression and how to support
When a partner is suffering from depression, it can be difficult to know how to help them while staying positive yourself. Here are some tips on how to support a loved one through their darkest days and maintain good personal mental health.
Make Small Gestures
Bring a gift or something fun to eat, provide activities but no pressure to participate, and offer space if that’s what they wants. Above all, just listen to what they have to say, support them and don’t let them put herself down. Also, keep in contact an support them.
Don’t Blame Yourself
You wouldn’t blame yourself if your significant other got flu, so why would you blame yourself that they’re depressed? It’s an illness, so you do the same thing as you would with any other illness – make sure you’re there to help out if you’re needed.
Get them to talk to a therapist. You can be there for them when they are feeling down, but if you become there therapist you will be unable to separate yourself from the situation and will begin feeling hopeless too. Depression is a terrible thing that people need supportive friends and family to cope with, but your first priority still needs to be your own mental health.
Don’t Try To ‘Fix’ Them
For a person who struggles with severe depression, the most amazing thing a person can do for you is to just support you and not try to fix it. Don’t try to make them exercise. Don’t make them feel bad if they doesn’t accomplish anything in a day. Don’t make them talk about it if they doesn’t want to. Don’t try to force them to be happy. They already feels so badly about themselves and all those things. Just be there for them.
Just know that medication take time to work, and sometimes people have to try multiple types of medication before they find the right one. It takes a lot of patience. Some people are less/more sensitive to medications, but for many they’re a godsend. Many feel that they can regain some level of control after going on them.
Be Physically Present
What a friend can do that helps is simply be there or just sit with me. Sometimes ‘today is a bad day’ and a friends mere presence can enough to support. The fact that a friend can be physically there can make all the difference and show a level of care that can really impact.
Look After Yourself
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Do things with friends, see your own therapist, get a hobby, whatever. You can be a better support if you’re sturdy and well.